Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Some things I Could Have Done Differently

I should not have done that. I could have acted differently. Blah blah blah. So much I could come up with when I look back at my life and list out the things I could have done differently. I have mentioned many times in many of my previous posts that I have absolutely no regrets regarding anything I have done in the past, but still, some things, though it may seem funny now, could have been done differently. More amusing is the fact that all of those incidents involve my brother and I realized that just now, as I was trying to list them out. I know, I have done quite a lot of stupid things, but then, haven't we all at some point in our lives?

One of the earliest incidents I remember goes back to when I was maybe 8 years old, and my brother was 4. I remember it being a regular weekday evening when we were back from school and we kicked off our uniforms and shoes and ran towards our neighbors house, which was right behind ours. There was some construction going on and so there were a lot of bricks, sand, tiles, stones etc lying around. We played by making use of those materials and either built mock houses or just dug deeper into the sand. The neighbor smart ass kid who played with us took improvisation to new heights when he decided to pick up a foot long pointed tile, hold it in his hand and spin around non stop, while shouting "helicopter, helicopter." After a few impressive spins, the blades of his helicopter (read tile) slipped from his hands. Exactly at that moment, my brother who was ignoring the helicopter act all this while, decides to see for himself what the big deal was, and he turns around. The tile that slipped, glides with perfect aerodynamics and precision, as if it was controlled by a radar, and hits my brother hard, less than a centimeter above his left eye. Shocked that his black hawk was down, the neighbor kid jumped the walls and disappeared. That left me alone at the scene of the crash, along with my brother who was down on the ground in a small pool of blood, bloody enough to make me faint. What do I do? What do I do? Well, I casually slip away from the scene, leaving my brother behind, and I head back home as if nothing happened. My folks asked me where my brother was and I told them that he was still playing. The anxiety made me want to take a dump and I decided to go hide in the toilet. A few minutes later I think my brother managed to get up and he slowly walked towards home. My parents heard him cry and rushed down and saw him covered in blood. He was rushed to the hospital and a few stitches took care of it. I will just leave it at that. I am not even going to go into the sound thrashing I got and very much deserved. To this day, I don't know why I act that way.

Maybe around 5 or 6 years ago, my brother was admitted to a hospital because he had to be treated for some problem he had with his appendix. It was not being removed, but he had to be admitted for a few days and undergo some medication and many rounds of drips. My dad and I took turns to stay with him and offer our assistance. At nights, it was my duty to watch when one drip bag is empty and inform the nurse, who would come and replace it with a new bag. This process went on for a few days. The first night I stayed there, I was given instructions on what to watch out for and whom to call. I remember turning off the lights and hitting the bed. I did not wake up until morning. It seems that my brother tried his best to wake me up in the night when the drip was over and it was time to be changed. He called and called and even raised his voice and tried to wake me. No use. In the end, he gave up and he managed to rise up on his own. He got out of bed, lifted the drip bag, tube and the stand on which it is hung, with the needle still poked into one of his arms, and carried it out of the room and went and called the nurse himself. Once again, I am not going to mention about the sound blasting I got from the nurse in the morning. That was the last night duty I had. My dad took over from the next day onwards.

I save the best for last. This one is my personal favorite but a really cruel and wicked one. Rewind back to when I was maybe 7 or 8 and my brother was 3 or 4, approximately. It might have been a weekend and I might have felt real bored and could not think of what better things to do, so I walk into the bathroom and turn on the geyser or water heater. I let it heat up for a few minutes so that the water would become boiling hot. Once that was done, I call my unsuspecting brother and tell him that I have a magic trick to show him. I very gently lead him into the bathroom. Imagine a cute little goat that has been looked after well, only that it has no clue it is going to be slaughtered soon. Well, that probably describes my brothers position. I lead him into the bathroom and ask him to close his eyes and stretch out his hands, which he did with unmatched trust, the kind that is hard to find. I place his hand under the tap and with great pleasure I turn on the boiling hot water. Poor kid came to catch some magic, and walked off with a burnt hand. I got my share of thrashing again, but this time I really got a lot more than that. The very next day, my cousins were visiting and we were going out on a trip. I was ironing my clothes, when as if by the hand from above, the hot iron box lost balance and fell on my right arm. I pulled my arm off and the whole thing was over in less than one second, but the iron had already ripped of a fair amount of skin from my arm and the scar remains to this very day, though it is almost invisible now. It's probably going to be a mute reminder to how well I got paid back for something I really should not have ever done.

I can't help but stare at the scar again and again as I glance at my arm while typing this out. The first two incidents happened because, that is how I am. That's me, but this one is probably something I wish I could wipe out. It's just not me.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

I Am, I think, I know, And A Whole Lot More

Yay, it's tag time again and this time from Pointblank. I am excited because at the end of this I get to tag others and I am going to tag some of those dead blogs that needs some reviving. Yea, I can be a pain sometimes. Anyway, this feels kind of similar to a tag I did few months ago but it has a few new ones so I thought I would do it after all. So here goes.

I am
: Usually a fence sitter, but I am happy where I am.
I think: Way too much sometimes. I wish I could just cut out the thoughts and all the "what if's" and just carry on.
I know: That we will all have our momentary sprouts of happiness, which we all deserve. If only we noticed it always.
I want: To forget certain things and get to know some new things. I sometimes secretly wish I had amnesia and forgot maybe the last ten years. That's one freakin decade of my life.
I have: A lot more than I need, but I still keep wanting more, but hey, don't we all?
I wish: I didn't have to try too hard to go and get what I want, but I am wise enough to know that it does not work that way.
I hate: People who judge and think that they are going to walk straight into heaven. Well if they do, I rather walk towards the basement.
I miss: A lot. A freakin lot of things, some of which I know I can never have again. So now you know why I wish for amnesia? lol
I fear: Snakes, and apart from that the idea that some people may just go and ruin something beautiful that they have.
I feel: My music. If I play or listen to a song I like, I become one with it. It's like the song is in me and I am in the song. I understand how musicians feel on stage when they play. I feel it.
I hear: Some things that I should not have. I occasionally get some information which I could do without, but it's not I go searching. It just comes to me.
I smell: The fresh scent that rises up in the air when the first few drops of rain fall on dry land. Call me freaky but I can always smell it, no matter where I am.
I crave: Aah, quite a lot, but I think this song should sum it up.
I search: For the truth, because I believe that it changes everyday and what is true today need not be true tomorrow.
I wonder: If I will wake up tomorrow and if I do, what it holds for me. I also wonder if even a single person in this world would have learnt anything from me.
I regret: Not having said some things when I should have, but apart from that, no regrets in life at all.
I love: You, and you, and you, and you and you. All you crazy ass people who have made my life worth living. You know who you are.
I ache: In my heart when someone hurts me.
I am not: What you think I am when you see me once. My character is very easy to misunderstand. So talk to me more, or just read my blog, where I think I am more expressive.
I dance: No more. Was made fun of a few times so decided it was not worth it. More importantly, I never really enjoyed it anyway.
I sing: Even when I am told that I can't sing. Mostly when I am alone at home but I just refuse to give up. But don't ever ask me to sing, because I wont.
I cry: Secretly, because I grew up believing that men don't cry. I know that's a load of bull, but still I do it without anyone knowing.
I don't always: Answer my phone. Sometimes I just don't want to talk to you.
I fight: With no one. I don't remember the last time I had a fight or confrontation.
I write: Pretty ok, and I discovered that maybe a year into blogging.
I win: When I don't retaliate to being provoked. It has worked for me every time.
I lose: Some valuables because I can be absent minded and will not remember where I kept somethings.
I never: Want to choose between two people who are close to me. Didn't I mention that I was a fence sitter?
I always: Try my best to be genuine and non judgemental. I always want to accept people for what they are.
I confuse: Names of people. I sometimes mix and match names and call people the wrong name. Maybe I should pay more attention.
I listen: To everyone and what they have to say, because everyone has a story which is important to him/her and they need to be listened to.
I can usually be found: Drunk and lying in a gutter. Just kidding. Come home, because I am always there. I am either sleeping in bed, or working in front of my computer.
I need: Someone who can promise me that they will not give up on me and leave me stranded.
I am happy about: The way my career has shaped up. I have one of those dream jobs, where though the pay is not sky high, I have a lot of liberties.
I imagine: Another apt song for you. If you have not heard this song, or if you don't like it, go jump in a well.

Like I mentioned before, I have quite a few dead or almost dead blogs on my roll. Here is a chance for them to revive it. These are actually the last four on the updated list. No more excuses of "I don't know what to write". So, now get down to it. Just kidding. Understand that I love reading what you guys write and hence I wish you all would write more often.

List of tag victims:
Penny Lane
Orange Fling
Paunch
Babu Musings

Saturday, August 02, 2008

Three Chances Too Many

Don't most of you relate with the feeling when you are in a very random public setting, and your eyes fall on someone of the opposite sex and you just cant take your eyes off them? It's this weird feeling where your eyes keep following their every move, trying hard to not let them notice. You forget about your purpose of your visit to that place and you are totally oblivious and nonchalant to what is happening around you. All the while, you hope that that person would look back at you, even if it was for a second. It hardly happens though.

That is exactly what I did. I shamelessly kept staring at her all along, and i totally forgot what I was there for. It was quite a public setting and I felt that it might seem weird if I approached her and started talking. I let it go. Call me a chicken, but obviously it was a random person I met in a very public place. Just another face among hundreds, and there was no chance in hell I would ever come across her again. Imagine my surprise when the next day I walk into another smaller and more close gathering, and I see her walk in too. I fumble, panic, gulp, burp and what not. Here was my perfect chance to talk to her. Maybe not a conversation, but a simple "what's your name?" would do for now. Of course I knew her name, ...duhhh, .....but what the hell. Forget it. The ball-less creature that I am, I let the evening and the whole night pass with nothing happening. I got a second chance and I totally ruined it. Idiot me.

It doesn't quite end there. I totally thought it was too much of a coincidence when I bumped into her for the third day in a row. Most people get a 2nd chance and here I was getting my 3rd. I let it go to waste. What a freakin waster I am. Will somebody teach me the fine art of approaching someone and starting a conversation? Thank you.